Never say "never". There was never a time when I did more writing than when I was a teenager. I wrote notes, stories, poems, letters to the editor, etc. One of the things that totally frustrated me as a teen is the fact that my mom "snooped". She would say that she couldn't help it, that my writings were just laying around to be seen. I tried to keep them tucked away, but after all, she came into my room quite a bit (mostly to get her clothes back, and to get the dirty dishes that had been in there for weeks). Anyway, I vowed that I would NEVER look at my kids' personal stuff without permission.
Well, I came to the conclusion the other day that I am my mother..I AM A SNOOPER! It started innocently a few years back when my oldest started a diary. I just had to take a peek to see what was going on in that little head of hers. Her writings were pretty impressive for an 8 yr. old. I would've gotten away with it except that she could hardly miss that fact that I had gone through and fixed all of the spelling errors. ( I know, I have SERIOUS isssues)!! My daughter is like me in that she likes to write also. She is actually far better at it than I ever was, and her notes are quite compelling. Yes, I have read her notes too! I have been pleasantly surprised at the content of her writings. Sure, theres a little "Can you believe that she wore that?" and a few quips about her "lame teachers" or "cute boys", but all in all she seems to be conducting herself (on paper anyway) as a happy, well adjusted pre-teen who most of all loves Jesus! Is she "planting" these notes for me, and hiding the shady ones away? I hope not.
Boy, does your perspective change when you become a parent. I am not ashamed that I read her things. I wouldn't intentionally dig them up, but if they are out there, I will look at them. What if there was an issue that she was afraid to tell me about? What if she was in danger? Maybe a friend of hers was going through something and needed some help? I think it's important to respect your child's privacy to a point, but they are still children. We are to look out for them. It's our job. What do you think? Is it totally unforgivable to peek at your kids' private stuff?